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The Art of Falling


Learning to walk as a child is an amazing thing. There is so much that goes into it. Strength, balance, stamina, coordination, and a whole lot of determination. Falling over and over again is all part of the process. Most times the falls are on a diaper cushioned bum. Some are headfirst but not as often. Once walking has been mastered we take off and never look back. I read a quote somewhere a while back that went something like this: Everything is hard until it’s not. Walking.

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Walking is hard. Falling is easy. As you grow you tend to trip and fall occasionally. If you play sports, there’s a good chance you will fall. Then there are those of us that are not coordinated at all and fall for no apparent reason. Most will dust ourselves off and go on about our day. Some won’t be as fortunate. Knees get skinned, bones get broken, concussions happen, or stitches are needed.

Two years ago, during surgery, I suffered a stroke in my spinal cord. This has left me an incomplete tetraplegic also known as a quadriplegic. They weren’t sure I’d even be able to feed myself let alone ever walk again. My main goal when entering rehab for three weeks was to walk somehow. Of course, they made me learn how to bathe, dress, and feed myself. Those are important too.

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Fast forward to present day, and I can walk some with a walker. I have the strength and determination. What I lack are the balance, stamina, and coordination. From time to time I fall. There’s no getting up and dusting myself off though. I require lots of help to get back up.

Yesterday, my best friend came to take me out to dinner. I texted my husband and he was going to meet us there. As we were headed to her vehicle the rollator’s breaks failed and I pitched forward. My left knee and my right forehead skidded on the concrete parking pad. I have some road rash on my right forearm. And, I lost a lot of hair where the goose egg was.

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My husband came on home. Fortunately, our neighbor and a friend of his were outside. Those three guys were able to lift me using a blanket and put me back into my wheelchair. I went on inside and with my best friend’s help I got cleaned up and we all went on out to dinner.

This morning my legs weren’t having any of it. Of course, they didn’t bother to tell me that until I tried to stand up. I elevator dropped right to the floor by the bed. I was trapped. My husband had to come home to help. Using a blanket again he dragged me into the living room where with the help of pillows and him pushing I got onto the couch. We had to use the slide board to get me into my chair.

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I was so excited and really still am about me starting to drive again. Taking the wheelchair with me is out of the question as I can’t get it into the vehicle. Now that the rollator is being a butt it is out of the equation too. As soon as I get through this minor setback I will go back to the rolling walker. It’s lightweight and easy to fold.

Remember, when life bites you in the ass bite back!

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Truly Random Thoughts


There’s not a theme to this blog. It will truly be a bunch of random thoughts. I hope you will enjoy the read.

American Table

Did not care for the American Table menu on our recent Carnival cruise. The food was just fine and quite edible. It was the selection that we found lacking. I can see it as an option, but not the only one. I prefer the international selections. Gone were the table clothes except on Elegant nights. Yes, it is a cost savings, but it dumbs down the dining experience. Sadly, Carnival is turning into the McDonald’s of the sea. Guy’s burgers are a big hit. They are very tasty. But, why are they open only from noon until 6pm? We had the best assistant maître d’ ever! After Suresh, the very brusk head maître d’, reassigned us from a booth to a regular table, Jovannah took time at every meal to come check on us. She was very attentive.


Things I love about summertime – the smell of honeysuckle in bloom, watching fireflies in the evening, a grand thunderstorm with lots of brilliant lightening, rainbows, laundry dried in the sun, backyard BBQs, not having to turn on the hot water to bathe, going swimming, watching children play outdoors, baby birds and squirrels, the return of the hummingbirds, screened-in porches, lemonade, watermelon and cantaloupe, farm fresh vegetables, vacations, honey bees and butterflies, and sleeping under a ceiling fan.


Our HVAC folks told us last summer that our unit was the right size for our house and was working within expected parameters. Yet, family & friends as well as many businesses were nice and cool while we were sweating. I don’t understand. I’ve never lived in a house where the air conditioning wasn’t able to maintain the temperature no matter how hot it got outside. But, ours starts creeping into the 80s when the temperature outside reaches the mid-90s and above. How do I fight back with the folks at D’Antignac and Merritt on that? We are still under warrantee.


We are so very excited about our new travel trailer! I’ve never had one before, but Gary had a tiny one when I first met him. The Jayco Jay Flight that we bought is like a studio apartment. It has everything that we need for just the two of us. We’ve been trying to decide on where to take it on our first trip. We’ve pretty much decided that we would take it somewhere close for a weekend to make sure we know how to use everything and do everything we are supposed to properly. Next spring, we plan to take longer trips and eventually go on a trip through the southwest.

leaky roof

How hard is it to give someone a quote for a small roof repair? Apparently, very hard. Enon Hopkins refuse to give me a written quote because it’s not my house, but a shed. They don’t want the competition to know what they would do to fix it. Seriously? Augusta Remodeling sent someone over while we were on vacation as agreed, but refused to give us a quote because no one was home. And, they knew we would be out of town. I give up. My best friend, Tammy, has put us in contact with her handyman. I’m letting Gary handle it.


Speaking of my best friend Tammy, now that she has retired I’m getting to see a lot more of her. She has moved about an hour & half’s drive away but comes up to Augusta every week. It’s a blessing to have her around and spending much more time together. With both of us having been so busy with our careers we had been lucky to see each other 2 or 3 times a year. Best friends are hard to come by and I’m so thankful she’s mine.


I’ve got extensive spine surgery coming up on the 11th. A whole range of emotions are going through me. I’m not afraid or upset about the vertebral fusings, though I’m not looking forward to them either. The draining of the cyst bothers me a little, but not as much as the de-tethering of my spinal cord. Frankly, it scares the shit out of me. I know that it is a pretty common procedure in children with spinal bifida; but, that is usually in the lower back. My tether is between C2 & 3. Anyway, it’s all in God’s hands and I trust Him with whatever the outcome may be. I’m still human though and still scared.


Since I became disabled last July I have few hobbies that I am able to pursue. Reading is one that I can do. And, that I do on a regular basis. I read between 2 and 4 books every week. I’ve turned that hobby into a blog with reviews. While my grammar is far from perfect everyone seems to be very forgiving. In fact, I am getting requests by authors to review their books. I would have never dreamed that would happen! It’s all very exciting to me. And, it is something that I can do at my own pace. If I’m having a bad day I can put the book down to let my body rest. There are no deadlines. My time is my own. If it paid a salary, then I’d be rich! There’s nothing like doing something you really love.


Anyone have a recommendation for a housekeeper that will come every 2 to 3 weeks, do a decent job, and charge a fair price? We really need one. If they would cook dinner Monday through Friday nights for us that would be even better. Well, one can dream, can’t they?